My wife nearly divorced me when I was trying to save
our
marriage! My best thinking nearly cost me the
relationship that meant more than anything to me. It
turns out that there are some simple secrets that
anyone can use when a marriage is in trouble. It's
not what you will typically hear from a traditional
marriage counselor but it works! If you are facing a
troubled marriage, I'd like to share with you the
secret for saving your marriage and winning back the
love when it seems like all is lost.
Most people
are not equipped with a handbook for making a
marriage last forever. So when the love begins to
fade and problems start to surface, many will see a
marriage counselor in the hopes of righting the
marital ship. I don't mean to pick on marriage
counselors, but the fact is that in a recent study
of traditional marriage counseling, only 20% of the
couples who were surveyed felt that the counselor
was any help to them. Half of the rest ended up
divorced.
The problem with traditional marriage counseling
is that most of these folks training and focus is on
individuals rather than the marriage itself. They
work from a faulty model and can actually make the
problem worse! Would you go see a doctor who was
only able to help 20% of his patients? Not likely!
Imagine instead, if the focus was on your
marriage as a third and separate person apart from
the two of you. This model for rebuilding marriages
has been way more effective. It breaks down the old
myths about communication and other tired techniques
that have not worked but are taught by most
traditional counselors. Much of this new approach
will sound like the complete opposite of what you
think you should be doing but it works!
Three things are required of you to make a new
beginning, regardless of how your spouse feels right
now:
1. Put yourself in a resourceful state where you
can remain calm and confident
2. Be 100% committed to doing whatever it takes
to save your marriage
3. Be willing to take immediate action, even if
the process seems strange
